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Resilient Joy 

A Heyoka Empath's Victory Over Narcissistic Abuse and

Jealousy in Family, Career and Church


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My Beautiful and Wonderful Grandma Elizabeth Banks

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My Aunt Van and me.  Visiting her to help her fix and clean her back room. Taking her out to eat.  (around Nov. 2008)

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Senior year during seniorities. Looking good on the outside kept me going. (around 1987)

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Studying Abroad in Spain. (Jan. - May,1994)

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My Undergraduate College Graduation Day from Manhattanville College. My niece and my little sister were so proud of me. (May 1994)

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Me and Christa in LA, California (Feb. 1995)

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Victor and me on our wedding day. (Oct. 1998)

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Marianna at our wedding at 10 month old. (Oct. 1998)

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Rocco, Mariana, Victor and me. (Family photo.) I'm on a photo shoot for my composition card and I cried so much that day (I needed extra retouching) because Victor was verbally abusive and changed his mind at the last minute about helping me out.  As usual you couldn't tell by my smile.  (2001)

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Marianna on a Blues Clues Commercial Promo.  She insisted on meeting Steve. (Aug. 2001- an extremely hot day)

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When Victor was first missing. Times were hard but we had fun anyway. ( Fall 2009)

Rocco and Marianna dressed really nice for a at a Mother's Day Narroway production. (holding on to our joy during the time their father was missing.) 2010?

Dressed nice headed out to Marianna's Cheerleading awards ceremony. We finally got some inheritance. (Summer 2011)

Lilli went with us everywhere.  She knew Rocco picked her from the kennel. "A boy (young man) and his dog." (around 2016)

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Married and separated from "Jack". The day we met Pastor Raju at Center Grove Church in NC. 

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My amazing Mary Kay Director, National Candy Lewis. "Jack" was verbally abusing me and giving me a hard time that day and Ms. Lewis was seeing my light and potential anyway.

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My Saka® Women's Class in my own space in Winston.  My Saka Superstars!

Separated from "Jack". (Summer of 2014)

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One of the many miracle babies I prayed for.  This photo was with the mom.  He was a real blessing. 

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Me well known in Winston, NC leading the warmup for the Color Run (March, 2014)

At the Zumba conference. I took a photo with the instructor after dancing in the African class. 

(Feb. 2013)

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Jeff, me and our children on our wedding day.  What a beautiful wedding! (Nov. 2015)

Performing at an event in Greensboro, NC with some of my Saka dancers and Superstars.

(Ashley, other Ashley, Camille and me)

At our Sakathon.  Erin was so essential to our front desk sign-in area. She was such a blessing and so professional.

One of the photos I used (with my natural hair) to met Jeff. 

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My name in the credits of one of the movies I was in, Box Cutter

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When we went to Michigan to hang out with Martha, my mother-in-law. She was so funny. She loved Jesus and I loved her. (Summer 2016)

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My best friend from college, Wendy, my maid of honor. She came all the way from Connecticut to be there for me.  

(Saka Superstar, dancer, Saka instructor and sister from God,) Camille and her beautiful newborn baby boy.  

The fam!  My children, Rocco and Marianna and Wendy.  We all knew why this day was such a blessing.  We felt like family and mom finally has true joy in Love. 

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Performing (my signature Caribbean Fusion Belly dance) and key note speaker in Atlanta, GA at a Ladies Who Lunch event.

(around Feb. 2020)

Living in Atlanta, GA and having Pastor Charles Stanley as my pastor. (2018 -2020)

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My Lovely, Vicki Cannon, from my YouTube channel.  The one who asked what my testimony was. Here is her response under the video where I answered her question and shared my testimony for the first time on my YouTube channel. (Easter Sunday (Resurrection day) April 2019)

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J.O.Y. Party TV (Jesus Overcame for You) ministry on YouTube.

(Channel is Patrice D'Evans)

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YouTube had my YouTube ministry alongside Billy Graham's ministry.  I had to get a photo of it since I've been called "Billy Graham with an afro."

Additional Photos 

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After Saka class my sweat made a cross. (Gift from Keisha, a Saka Superstar.)

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My daughter Marianna supported my Saka program and classes. 

Saka Superstars in Winston-Salem, NC.

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(left to right -) Dana, Valerie and Marie in the back.

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One of our Sakathons in Winston- Salem, NC. Robin and Terri were always in the front. 

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After our Sakathon in Greensboro, NC. Camille blessed me with flowers.  She's so wonderful!  I love you Camille.

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(left to right) Robin, Dana, Marie and one of the Terri's. 

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(Left to right) Marie, Dana and Sherry. 

Greensboro, NC Saka classes

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In the orange shirt is Anita who was transformed in her mood form taking Saka classes. Wendy, in the yellow Saka shirt, lost 100 pounds and changed her life outlook as a regular Saka Superstar   

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Regular Saka superstars were these: on the left of me, Ashley, behind Ashley, Sarah, behind me Quandra, to the right of me Camille, to Camille's right other Ashley, Monique at the very right.

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